What is the personality anyway, and how does it come into being? Before developing anything, we must clearly understand 
what it is and how it operates.
Information gathered throughout the ages points to the fact that personality is a collection of habits, thoughts, and perceptions of our past experiences.
Our environment is also an essential factor in the development of our personalities.
The greater the conflicts and chaos we grow up in, will the level of a character that is out of harmony with the environment and other people.
One of the great things about nature, and human nature, for that matter, is that it is not set in stone.
Once the conflict factors are removed, a person can take personal responsibility to change the old ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. Our environment always testifies to our harmony or lack of balance.
The Hero’s Journey We All Must Take
In Greek mythology, Medusa has snakes coming from her head, representing our wrong perceptions, thoughts, and bad experiences we define as ourselves.
Napoleon Hill defined it this way,
A person’s personality is the person. It shapes your thoughts, deeds, and relationships with others.
It establishes the boundaries of the space you occupy in the world! Your personality is your greatest asset or greatest liability, for it embraces everything you control: mind, body, and soul.
It goes to reason that the more a person understands and controls their mind, the more control they will have over their personality.
The less a person understands and controls the functions of their own mind, the less power they will have over their nature. This is the problem we see today with people with split personalities.
Like Always Attracts Like
Often times we kill our best opportunities in life by having a messed-up attitude. The only person that would hang around another person that has a bad mood is another person with the same attitude. Remember, like always attracts like.
How we see something is how we see it, that doesn’t mean it’s the reality of it; it’s just our perception of it that makes it real for us. This is where most people fail when trying to develop a pleasing personality in business or life.
The person that doesn’t have a pleasing personality just can’t get over the fact that their own perceptions of things may not be someone else’s reality of it.
These people want to be right always and don’t mind sacrificing harmony with the people around them.
To develop a pleasing personality, we must understand and see other people’s points of view. Creating an attractive character is impossible if you are constantly butting heads with the people around you.
The Steps And Foundation On Developing A Pleasing Personality
So what are some of the traits of a pleasing personality?
1. A positive mental attitude
2. Sincerity
3. Common Courtesy
4. Smiling
5. Tactfulness
6. Patience
7. Proper Dress
8. Sportsmanship
9. Alertness
10. Humility of Heart
11. Control of Temper/Emotions
12. A Pleasant Tone Of Voice
13. Control of Facial Expressions
14. Tolerance
15. A sense of Humor
16. A fondness for People
17. Enthusiasm
18. Personal Magnetism
How can we develop these traits to become more effective with the people around us?
How To Develop A Magnetic Personality With 3 Simple Steps
1. Becoming more aware and sensitive to other people is the first step in developing a pleasing personality. Realize that everyone has feelings. Suppose you want to understand and get along with other people. In that case, you must become more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions while in the company of other people.
2. Come to understand that your perception of a thing is not other people’s. Acquiring a broader point of view can enhance your perception of that subject.
3. Always keep your mind on the positive things of life. Remember, where your focus goes is where your mind will end up. Be aware that your thoughts produce your actions, and your efforts will produce your personality.
Don’t Fake It Until You Make It
Being authentic means that you have built a principle into the nature of your being. Faking a principle only to get the desired results is not the same as having that principle within your makeup.
A keen personality of human nature can feel when a person is fake. Building a pleasing personality takes time and effort, even more so when raised in conflict. The time and measures we spend in this endeavor have a far-reaching effect beyond time and space.
FAQ:
1. Why is it essential to have a magnetic personality?
Everything that we want in life will come from other people. If we are not in harmony with others, we will repel and not attract people.
2. Is my personality set in stone? Can I change It?
The personality is a set of thoughts, feelings, and actions. All of these things have been programmed into us from birth.
Programming can be changed, like changing a channel on TV.
3. Why is It so hard to change old habits ?
Anything we learn that is new has different laws that we are not used to operating by. That is why it is hard in the beginning. Once we understand the principles, it will become second nature.
4.What is the fastest way I can develop a pleasing personality?
One of the fastest ways is through the control and proper use of your sexual energy.
Sexual energy is the force that brings human beings into adulthood.This energy has profound effects on the human psyche.
This energy attracts and repels by the control and higher use of sexual energy. We can work the fastest.
Have a look at the word sexual transmutation. Check out these two books: Revolutionary Psychology and Revolution of the Dialectic.
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